{"id":24299,"date":"2019-05-31T00:26:20","date_gmt":"2019-05-31T05:26:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sites.imsa.edu\/acronym\/?p=24299"},"modified":"2019-05-31T00:26:37","modified_gmt":"2019-05-31T05:26:37","slug":"seniors-speak-expectation-is-overrated","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sites.imsa.edu\/acronym\/2019\/05\/31\/seniors-speak-expectation-is-overrated\/","title":{"rendered":"Seniors Speak: Expectation is Overrated"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of the sections included in the annual Senior Edition is a series of essays titled Seniors Speak. These works are written and submitted to <\/em>The Acronym by members of the graduating class, allowing them to reflect on their experiences, share advice, and advocate for change. The writer of this piece is Daniel Chen (Johns Hopkins University \u201923), who lived in 1504A during all three years of his IMSA experience. He was the 1600M race state champion during his senior year and a member of CAB during his junior and senior year.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cWhy can\u2019t you be more like _________?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Over my three years here, I\u2019ve come to realize that there are few things we students hate and fear more than the prospect of failing to live up to expectations. Whether it comes from our parents, teachers, siblings, or peers, the consequences are all the same: we push our minds and our bodies to their absolute limits, all in a desperate attempt to live up to the standards that so-called \u201cgods\u201d and \u201clegends\u201d set before us.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m the oldest child in my family, so some people may say that I\u2019ve got it easy; in a familial respect, they\u2019re right. I didn\u2019t have to live up to the hype or accomplishments of an older sibling. However, that\u2019s not to say that I have zero experience with facing unrealistic and unfair expectations. In reality, it\u2019s quite the opposite; for me, these expectations stemmed from a different source, which was my peers. Growing up in Dunlap, there was only one thing that my parents truly wanted me to excel at: math. Every day, my friends and I were swamped not by our schoolwork, but by the endless amounts of MathCounts practice problems and AMC packets that our parents would print out for us to complete. Well, <\/span>I<\/span><\/i> was swamped at least. Long story short, it hadn\u2019t taken me long to realize that, no matter how hard I practiced, reviewed, or relearned, my math and problem-solving abilities were <\/span>miles <\/span><\/i>behind those of my friends. As I trudged through competition after competition, producing nothing but low scores and pity claps, I began to feel like more than just a failure academically; I felt like I had failed to be a good son. I had failed time and time again to meet the sole expectation my family had for me. Regardless, my parents did not violently berate or scold me for my subpar performances. Rather, they would try to hide the gloom on their faces and disappointment in their voices as I walked out of every competition empty handed, right alongside my trophy-wielding teammates and friends. To me, though, their disheartened acceptance of my inability was many times more painful than any insult or criticism.<\/span><\/p>\n

The car rides from those competitions seemed like hours, consisting of nothing but my parents praising so-and-so, talking about how well so-and-so did, and how so-and-so is so smart. My name was never mentioned in those conversations. I spent every second of those car rides staring out the window, repeating the same question to myself:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhy can\u2019t I be more like _________?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

As a runner, I’m often asked, \u201cWhy\u2019d you choose such a miserable sport?\u201d and I\u2019ve always answered with a simple, \u201cI don\u2019t know!\u201d But in my mind, I knew exactly why. Going into middle school, each of my friends possessed their own unique talent or skill. To this day, many of my closest friends can still probably put certain names to certain titles. One was the spelling guy. One was the cello guy. One was the tennis guy. One was the Scholastic Bowl guy. One was the biology guy. All of them were math guys. Altogether, my friend group was a walking powerhouse, a well-oiled machine of academic and artistic splendor. Then there was me. The one loose screw. The good-for-nothing-guy. Upon my realization of this fact, a gripping bitterness encompassed me, and every day that my friends celebrated an accomplishment was a day I secretly seethed in heated jealousy, screaming in my head the same helpless question:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWHY CAN\u2019T I BE MORE LIKE  _________?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

But, things soon changed when I joined the track team. On the track, I realized that I possessed a talent that not many others had. I was appreciated, respected, and, for the first time, I felt like I was making a positive difference for the team that I was on.<\/span><\/p>\n

Over the years, track and cross country gradually became my escape from the negativity, self-doubt, and self-deprecation that would continue to plague me throughout middle school. Every day, I vented my frustrations through our workouts, long runs, and meets. To me, track wasn\u2019t just some miserable, arduous sport; it was my passion and my release, and I had become addicted. By eighth grade, I made the State Finals for both cross country and track for the first time. In and of themselves, my athletic performances that year were nothing to brag about. But suddenly, I found something to be known by, and the feeling of being genuinely congratulated for the first time is something that I haven\u2019t forgotten to this day. I had become the running guy!<\/span><\/p>\n

Sure, I was unlike my friends, and I probably still didn\u2019t know how to do #3 on the AMC 8, but I had plenty of potential elsewhere. No one said I had to be good at everything to be successful, and my parents soon realized that the stigma of being bad at math had prevented me from exploring more things that I <\/span>was <\/span><\/i>good at. Freshman year, although I stayed on the math team, I no longer stressed about the scores and stats. I started exploring biology, a subject that I instantly fell in love with. I took pride in not only my own accomplishments but my friends\u2019 as well. And, perhaps most importantly, I stopped asking myself that cursed question. At long last, I was myself, and no one in the world could tell me I was less-than.<\/span><\/p>\n

I think that a lot of students spend too much of their high school years worrying that they won\u2019t measure up, that they will always live in somebody\u2019s shadow. They all seem to forget that, at the end of the day, you aren\u2019t anyone else. No, you aren\u2019t your Ivy-bound sister. You aren\u2019t your 4.0\/perfect SAT brother. You aren\u2019t your neurosurgeon father. You aren\u2019t your friend other parents call \u201cthe ideal child.\u201d And why should you be? You are your own person, and no matter how \u201cinferior\u201d you perceive yourself to be, no one can be you better than yourself. You have to develop your own talents just like how those before you developed theirs. Pick passions that make you happy, not ones that you feel obligated to have because someone else set the bar really high; anyone who truly matters in your life will accept you for what you want to be, not for what someone else is. In other words, expectation is overrated; don\u2019t let it control the way you live your life. It\u2019s too short for that. After all, a wise man named Ferris Bueller once told me, \u201cLife moves pretty fast. If you don\u2019t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.\u201d If you ever find yourself standing in someone\u2019s shadow, just remember that a few steps is all it takes to walk out of it! Oh, and by the way, NEVER let people ask you:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhy can\u2019t you be more like _________?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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